THE STORY BEHIND THE MOVIE: FRIENDS WITH BENEFITS

It's not just a movie but reality. They say if you truly want to know yourself, look at your five closest friends.  So let me ask you a question: who are your five closest friends?   You are the reflection of the people you spend most of your time with.  Whether you like it or not, like them or not, friends can do two things:  Either push us forward or pull us back.   A young basket ball player will never learn how to jump until he sees his  friends dunking.  You will recall that in primary or secondary, you didn't really get into trouble in class or in the hostel until your friends started flunking.  This is why I'm saying that it is important to have friends with benefits.  If they don't add to your life, then subtract from them. If they don't do nothing at all, that's just bad. ‎As humans we peruse our surroundings and learn to adapt to it, so if you surround yourself with bums, what do you expect to be the outcome?  Certainly you will end up full of regrets. Life is too short to live for other people's ideas.  So wait, am I implying, contrary to popular belief that you should only be friends with people that can help you? Yes, I am!  Be friends with people that respect your identity and the decisions you choose to make. Be friends to people who can help you refine your decisions and not otherwise.  People that can help you grow because true friends are people that BENEFIT YOU emotionally, spiritually, mentally, intellectually and regularly. Drop that friend that opposes and condemns  your ideas without proffering alternative(s). Run from that friend that puts you down nine out of ten times whenever you are in a crowd, but then becomes your best buddy when no one else is around. That's not a true friend.  At the same time, remember that one hand washes the other before they can both wash the face.   So before you can expect good friends, you have to learn to be one yourself and that involves having morals and principles that you stand by and stick to.  It's not enough to complain that your friends always betray you. If you watch it and think deeply, you will see that you have been a betrayal too.  So there's nothing wrong with having friends with benefits, so ultimately, both of you can find ways to benefit each other. And lastly, if you don't build your dreams someone else will hire you to build theirs! Get real!   Itote Damisa If you enjoyed this article, please use the buttons below to share it on social media and subscribe to our email by entering your email address on our subscription box. Once you do that, you will get notified when new content is published. Follows on Twitter @Osikharita Thanks for reading!